“Im a mama! Of 3 boys 2 and under. I dont sleep much, I dont shower much, I barely wear real clothes. My spare time is spent cleaning or writing( its about priorities guys ). ”
By Rachael Boley
You guys! Today was day 6 of no shower.
Thats too long folks. My hair has been in the same pony tail all week long, Ive only changed my t-shirt perhaps twice at home and have just been worn real clothes a few times and that was for church, the zoo and a grocery running. Dry shampoo, deodorant and fragrance can only carry a person so far, and I think day 6 is the limit. Ive wiped down the essentials several times, but even that starts to not work anymore after so many days.
Heres the thing. This is not unusual for me these days. Its consistently 3-5 days in between each rain. Its merely a reality of life right now. Actually this has been current realities probably since my twins were born over 2 years ago.( I was better about raining when I worked throughout my second pregnancy because the public was subjected to my appearance on a daily basis and I didnt want to lose my job. But I digress .)
Heres the other thing. Im ok with it.
Im a mommy! Of 3 sons 2 and under. I dont sleep much, I dont shower much, I barely wear real clothes. My spare time is expended cleaning or writing( its about priorities guys ). The boys hygiene is much more solid than mine and I do a much better task taking care of their little bodies than my own. It only is what it is.
Earlier today I posted this image on Facebook with the status, The conflict is real folks. route too many days since Ive seen the shower! You know youre a mom when cleaning like a mad girl before your children wake up( and some after) is what you consider me period and a workout all in one! I better squeeze in a shower somewhere or people will stop loving me.
Obviously this is not a flattering picture of myself, but its my life. Shortly after my post I had 2 friends remark and share similar pictures of themselves admitting it had been 3 days since they rained as well. This got us thinking and realizing that we are not alone in the showerless, stinky mama seem. This beautiful me too moment gave us the freedom to relax and be proud of our stink and what it represents. I replied with a Go us! Power to the showerless remark and we decided to change our profile pictures to these real pictures of ourselves to show people that this is what motherhood looks like sometimes.
Its not always fairly. Its not always clean. Theres no make up , no cute outfit , no accessories other than a vacuum and a spit cloth, and we wouldnt have it any other way!
Mom life, especially stay at home mom life, is not glamorous in the typical definition of glamour. But it absolutely is beautiful .
There is a Colbie Caillat song called Try that has become my anthem. Please take the time to watch the video and let this sink in.
I dont know about you, but Ive wasted a lot of time in my life striving. Trying to fit societys definition of beauty. Trying to feeling worthy. Trying to determine myself in everyone elses opinion of me. Trying to be perfect, good enough, lovely. Detesting myself for what Im not rather than loving myself for what I am.
I dont always feel pretty when Im on day 6 with no shower, my legs havent been shaved in 2 weeks, I may or may not have brushed my teeth that day, my hair is in a greasy pony tail, and Im in the same grubby clothes Ive been wearing all week. I dont always look in the mirror and think, Yes, this is good! except for sarcastically of course. I dont always feel beautiful and I definitely dont always love what I see in my reflection.
But what I do know is that Im beautiful. Not because of how I seem but because of who I am. Because of who my kids tell I am. And because of who God says I am.
Beauty isnt found in make up and costly clothes. Its not found in the perfect body. Its not may be in societys definition of beauty.
True beauty is found in truth. Its may be in integrity. Its may be in the real life moments and our open hearts. Its may be in our flaws. Its found in the me too.
For me today, beauty is found in the eyes of my children. Its found in them wrapping themselves around me despite my unshowered body. Its found in doing the best I can, loving my boys, and learning to love myself in the process. Its found in the understanding of exhilaration and a happy heart. Its found in the most real moments of everyday life as only a regular old mom.
So today I only want to challenge us all to stop trying, and merely be. Let your true beauty speak for itself , no matter how many days its been since you rained. Stand proud of your stinky body and dirty clothes. Find joy in your greasy hair and unshaven legs. Appear in the mirror and realise you are beautiful! Youre worth is not determined by your appears or what you do, its determined by who you are.
And who you are is beautiful! Boulder on gorgeous warriors! Power to the showerless !!!
You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. Song of Solomon 4:7
Do not let your adorning be externalthe braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in Gods sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3: 3-4
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully constructed. Wonderful are your works; my soul to know each other very well. Psalm 139:4
So we do not lose heart. Though our outer ego is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. 2 Corinthians 4:16
Strength and dignity are her garb, and she chuckles at the time to come. Proverbs 31:25
About the Author : Rachael Boley is a 29 -year-old single mama of 3 little nuggets-identical twin 2 1/2 -year-olds and a 14 -month-old. She works full time as an Oncology Social Worker, and in her spare time, she wrestles, snuggles, and loves on her three son. She moonlights as a blogger and writer, and expends her days learning to enjoy this crazy, messy beautiful life of single motherhood. Follow her on her blog Three Boys and a Momand on her Facebook page, and read more of her writings at Divorced Moms .